Fearless – Overcome the fear of starting over

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Anxiety, low self-esteem, stress, demotivation and many other negative feelings. Whether they are caused by social, environmental or trauma issues, these are some of the things that stand in your way at least once in your life.

We’re not perfect and that’s okay. So all settled, yeah?

Sometimes a single sentence can radically change your life choices, but it doesn’t happen often, and it can be for the good or the bad. In this world, everyone is going through a difficult situation in their life; There is no need to compare each other feelings to see who is suffering the most, as we are humans who feel our own emotions in our own way.

People often ask me where I found the courage to start my life from scratch, despite the various problems that we and our society impose on us.

But first of all, we should ask ourselves where this fear comes from and why. It seems obvious, but people don’t navigate enough inside themselves and always end up leaving their thoughts halfway through the process.

Even if you only get an idea, it’s okay because it’s already something, and that means that you are trying to understand yourself.

From here on, it all goes downhill, as you will solely have to organize, elaborate, act and reflect. After all, if you really want something, you will get there!

This phase is significant because it leads to a decision and an action.

Therefore, to at least help you on your journey, I wrote an exercise for you, which I’ve used and still enjoy to this day.

Close your eyes. Visualize yourself as a whole new person, just reborn, in an empty space like a blank canvas;
What do you want to do right now? Why aren’t you doing it?
Do you have a goal? If so, which one?
What are the pros and cons?
What are you afraid of?
How can you get there, despite the obstacles?

These are some questions you can ask yourself to find answers to your doubts; you can try this exercise with your eyes closed, relaxing for a moment, or writing the answers down somewhere.

However, I would like to clarify that everyone has their own method of dealing with fears, but it is good to not try too hard to avoid an initial euphoria effect, which disappears immediately.

Sometimes motivation or will is not enough, you have to act, and the only way to do it without being afraid of failure is to take care of yourself, your body and your environment.

Another tip I can give you is about journaling. You could try to divide your weeks – or days – by creating small daily or weekly milestones, which you know will lead to the big goal of your life!

I believe that when you start with a few boxes, then the motivation to do more comes by itself!

None of us are fearless because fear is a normal emotion and should be embraced, welcomed, and then let go of when ready.

Courage will come when you least expect it, but never regret actions that you believe will make you feel good. Life is in constant motion and is worth living!

-Have you tried the exercise? If so, what do you think? Leave a comment or share this article if it helped, so you can help others!

Author – Denise Ledda

2 responses to “Fearless – Overcome the fear of starting over”

  1. Great point. I myself have changed careers multiple times, so I’m definitely familiar with starting over, but at the same time, I still get the same reluctance every time I attempt it. Anyway, thanks for this post!

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    • Absolutely true! It is much better to focus on yourself above all else; the reluctant glances will always be there, but we won’t stop our path because of that!
      Thank you for reading!


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